A Kwik Confidence Boost

It Starts With You

• In school, Jim’s superpower was all about being invisible.
• He was called ‘the boy with the broken brain’ and bullied a little.
• Everyone has their own story regarding difficulty.
• In your formative years, it’s not always easy to know who you are.
• Jim would often doubt himself, and then shrink and hide.
• In the Marvel Movie, Shang-Chi, the main character is an amazing martial artist who says: Stop Hiding.
• That’s what Jim did in school. He shrank, sitting in the back, and behind taller kids. He didn’t want to be seen.
• Deep down, even when you’re hiding, part of you wants to be seen and heard—even in those stressful moments where you just want to hide.
• Self-esteem and self-worth don’t come from anyone else.
• They have to come from you.
• It starts with self-love.
• No amount of love or encouragement or pride can fill your spirit like when it comes from yourself.
• The first key to building your self-confidence and self-esteem is having the curiosity to get to know yourself.
• Self-awareness is a superpower.
• If you want greater self-esteem or self-worth, the first part is self.
• Get to know yourself by having the curiosity to discover who you are.
• You are special because you are an individual.
• Nobody is the same person, even identical twins. Everyone has different values and beliefs.
• That’s why you meditate, journal, go to talk therapy—to discover who you are inside.
• It’s not interpersonal­­: yourself to others. It’s intrapersonal: self to self.
• Discover what you stand for, the things you believe, your personal ‘I Am’ statements.
• The second key—after you get to know yourself and develop your self-awareness—is having the courage and confidence to be yourself.
• Half of the process is discovering your sense of self, but the other half is living it and really developing yourself.

The Journey Of Discovery

• Many of you know Jim’s story with the X-Men.
• At nine years old, he was defined by an adult who called him, ‘the boy with the broken brain’.
• That label became his limit.
• He used to ride his bike through his neighborhood because he read that’s where the X-Men school was.
• Comic books helped him learn how to read, so he really wanted to find Professor X’s School for the Gifted, where he trained all the mutants.
• The X-Men were Jim’s favorite superheroes growing up because they didn’t fit in. They were marginalized and bullied.
• Jim wanted to find his superpowers and his superfriends.
• The things that made them different, made them special. But he didn’t feel like his differences made him special.
• Even though he never found the school when he was young, years later he did get to work with the X-Men.
• He helped the actors and crew learn to speed read scripts, memorize lines, and develop deep focus on set.
• The very first shot was at the X-Men school and Jim got to see his superhero friends come to life.
• When he got home, there was a package waiting for him.
• It was a photo of Jim and the entire X-Men cast with a note from the Chairman of the studio saying, “Jim, thank you for sharing your superpowers with all of us. I know you’ve been searching for your superhero school since you were a child. Here’s your class photo.”
• That photo reminds Jim of when he was struggling with self-esteem and self-worth.
• But he was committed to knowing who he was and finding his passion and purpose.
• We’ve done multiple episodes on passion; you can listen here and here.
• Passion is what lights you up. And purpose is how to use that passion to light other people up.
• Part of building Jim’s self-esteem was finding his purpose and living it.
• Just having a superpower doesn’t make you a superhero.
• You have to develop your superpowers and share them to help others. That’s purpose.
• The key is to have both: power and purpose.

Be True To Yourself

• Once you find your power and your purpose, you can embrace your talents and unique skills.
• You have unique abilities and traits that allow you to find things you excel in.
• And maybe you can turn that into a career.
• You can add five days to your week when you do what you love and love what you do.
• But you have to start by having the courage to be yourself.
• As you find more and more of what you’re passionate about, you’ll become exposed to more experiences and situations that help you discover where your heart is.
• Follow your heart, just bring your brain with you.
• The X-Men movie Jim was on set for was all about time travel.
• Days of Future Past takes place in a future that’s very dim, dark, and dreary.
• Professor X sends Wolverine back in time to meet a younger version of himself so he can give him advice to change the direction of the future.
• Who wouldn’t love to go back in time, to a younger version of yourself and give them a message?
• What would you tell yourself?
• Remember, the key to self-esteem and self-worth is twofold: Have the curiosity to know yourself and the courage to be yourself.
• But self-esteem and self-respect are also the fruit of self-discipline.
• You have to get yourself to do the things that you need to do in order to really be the person you want to be.
• If you could go back and talk to your nine-year-old self, what would you tell them? What do they need to hear?
• If you were able to project into the future—ten, twenty, thirty years—what would your future self say to you?

Who Would You Make Proud?

• Part of talking about self-worth is accepting that you can be proud of yourself.
• There’s a difference between ego and pride.
• It’s important to acknowledge how amazing you really are and acknowledging the good qualities you have.
• When it comes to making people proud of you, the two most important people you should want to make proud are the younger and older versions of yourself.
• You can’t always control how other people, family, or friends view you.
• But you can think about how you can work to make the younger and older version of yourself proud.
• Are you living with integrity and kindness?
• Another part of self-love is encouraging yourself.
• Mel Robbins with the High-Five Habit believes you should high-five the mirror every morning while brushing your teeth.
• Remember: if your heart is beating, you have purpose.
• You are here for a reason and you don’t need anything to externally dictate what you are worth.
• Your personal value is for you to discover and embrace.
• It starts by having the curiosity to get to know yourself, and then having the courage to be yourself.
• Don’t hide, or shrink down, or try to be invisible and hide.
• The world needs you to step into who you are.
• Don’t dim your lights because you’re scared it’s going to hurt somebody else’s eyes.
• If anything, you should burn even brighter and be an example for people around you.
• When you’re taking your final breaths, no one else’s opinions or expectations of your worth are going to matter.
• What’s going to matter is how you loved, how you learned, and how you lived.

Find Your Confidence

• Remember: First, have the curiosity to know yourself. Then have the courage to be yourself.
• Focus on making the younger and older version of you proud.
• The life you live are the lessons you teach.
• That’s why we created a course, a very short program, where we’re going to have an honest conversation about self-confidence.
• What does it mean to really believe in yourself? To know and really own your self-worth.
• Maybe you’ve gone through our program and you’ve learned how to remember names but don’t feel confident talking to new people.
• Or you’ve improved your memory but giving a report in front of people is terrifying for you.
• Jim knows what it’s like to be so afraid of giving a book report that he lied about doing it.
• If you struggle with your own self-confidence and self-esteem, and want to learn more about the tools and techniques that helped Jim, go to KwikConfidence.com for more information.

Share With Us

• Take a screenshot and tag us (@JimKwik) and tell us one thing you’re proud of.
• If you’re interested in learning more about how to grow your confidence, join us at KwikConfidence.com.
• Don’t forget that you can always text Jim, his contact information is in his Instagram bio @JimKwik.