One of the most asked questions in our Kwik Podcast Facebook community relates to resilience and discipline. “I’m going through a lot of difficult times right now, things are a little bit crazy. How do I stay focused and resilient during these tough times?”
Resilience and discipline have become overused words. What exactly do they mean? What if you feel you just don’t have much of either? What if you think you’re destined to struggle with stress and adversity forever?
The good news is resilience can be learned. Resilience involves behaviors, thoughts, habits, mindsets, and actions that we can all learn, train and develop over time. Having overcome a tough background, healed her body from years of medication and gone on to become a respected wellness advocate and author, today’s guest Tara Mackey is a living embodiment of resilience and is here to share the message that you can do it too. Tara thinks of discipline as a muscle—the more you use it, the easier it gets to use it.
In today’s conversation, we hear a little about Tara’s origin story and how she began to overcome her circumstances, the reasoning behind her WILD technique, useful ways to implement the WILD technique, why you should give yourself a little more self-love, and quick tips to build discipline in your daily life.
TARA’S ORIGIN STORY
- Ongoing family issues, put on medication at thirteen years old, multiple diagnoses over several years, diagnosis caused her to have certain beliefs because of the labels
- By the time she was 24 she was on 14 medications, believed the doctors telling her it was the solution
- The turning point of friend’s death, became severely depressed
- Realised what she was feeling was nothing but the story she’d been telling herself, and if she kept repeating the story she was going to keep having the same life
- Initiated change by reviewing her life and her decisions, identifying what was causing her to build a toxic life, medication was one of her most toxic relationships
- Came off her drugs cold-turkey, withdrawal
- Started reading books on meditation, natural healing, food and finding the solutions to her ailments
- The person mentioned: Alan Watts
BOOK: WILD HABITS
- The WILD acronym can be applied to a variety of individual situations
- Willingness: to accept what is not working and be willing to change
- Intuition: to know what the next step is, take it and see where it leads you
- Love: have the self-love to do that necessary step day in and day out
- Discipline: have the discipline to take the step every day to build a new habit
EXAMPLE OF THE WILD PROCESS APPLIED TO DAILY LIFE
- Change one little habit and see what happens!
- Example: Tara’s friend changed her whole life by not getting coffee in the morning—it had become a time-waster that ruined her skin, and her body wasn’t reacting in the same way to caffeine anymore
- Her friend took the WILD steps. Willingness: she accepted it wasn’t working and called Tara, Intuition: next step was to replace caffeine with valerian tea, Self-Love: loved herself enough to meal prep and make enough tea each week to maintain the habit, Discipline: to do it over and over again.
- Based on the habit change, her route to work changed, and based on her route change she met her future husband on a train she wouldn’t have taken if she’d been in her usual coffee shop in the morning
- One little thing led to her entire life changing
TO THE PEOPLE STRUGGLING WITH SELF-LOVE:
- Love is the basis of everything
- If self-love is really hard for you, try giving yourself the care and love you give to other people, or wish other people gave to you
- Think about how you would treat your closest friend, your dog, your mom
- Once you show yourself self-love, everything changes, people will pick it up and respond to you differently
- One habit change can have a huge ripple effect and permeate to other areas of life
- Discipline is a muscle—the more you use it, the easier it gets to use it
- Give yourself a timeline and try it the habit change for just a few days—it will likely turn into weeks because you’ll want to keep doing it
- A quick example of trick to build discipline: if you want to go for a run in the morning, put your running gear out overnight
PARTING WORDS FROM TARA:
- Go for a walk! Get outside, get in nature, feel your connection to the ground, remember why you’re doing what you’re doing. It’s simple—everybody can do it—and puts you in a creative flow.
*** Please note, this episode is educational only and is not intended to diagnose or treat medical conditions. Please consult your healthcare provider if you have any questions or concerns.
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